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The squishy pillow nest exercise

My last blog post generated a lot of feedback. Most people laughed (which is what I did as I wrote it), but in addition, it also rings a little bell of truth within us because we can relate on some level…either in a past experience with another person or within ourselves, or both. Right?

A friend asked today, “Do you ever post about happy things?” and I got to thinking…

…and that’s the point: I think a lot about things! Probably too much. I am the over-analyzation queen. I like to dismantle and analyze the parts of Why about myself and about everyone and everything. Im sure I have some more positive/encouraging posts on this blog (try the blog post on courage: https://thisiskatied.wordpress.com/2014/10/09/sounds-like-truth-and-feels-like-courage/.) But I mostly use this blog as a way to sort out those feelings or express things I have been thinking about for a long time (and no, the last post was not about anyone in particular, it was just a tongue-in-cheek satire about people in general, me included).

I write to put ideas out there for people to chew on…you know, food for thought. Humanity has a lot to be celebrated but we are also always a work in progress and that progress fascinates me. Also, writing is just therapeutic for me. 🙂

I have been divorced for 6 or 7 years and have had several relationships since…so, naturally, I have spent a lot of time thinking about how relationships work, and what makes up a healthy relationship. And what makes people tick.

I used to bemoan my less-than-ideal dating roller coaster history. But it’s also taught me a ton. I have found out by trial and error what *doesn’t make a healthy relationship, and what are sure fire ways to detract from closeness or intimacy. I have learned a lot about myself in the process too, and what drives my reactions and behaviors, and what I can improve.

But in conclusion, I am content and happy with my life! Of course I have off days once in awhile, but who doesn’t? I practice gratitude every day and there is a lot to be grateful for. I have two amazing kids, a very supportive partner, a comfortable place to live, a great job, and a huge network of love and support. And a comfortable bed…I love my bed…I am enjoying it right now and typing this blog post from within my pillow nest.

Speaking if which, it’s really hard to be grateful and upset at the same time. (And really hard to be upset in the middle of a squishy pillow nest). So practicing gratitude is a great way to reframe and rewire your brain for happiness. I have been focusing on this a lot recently.

What are you enjoying right now? What are you grateful for? If you’re having trouble coming up with something, start a list. What would you have on yours?

❤️

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